We all want to be happy, and we all know that having a positive attitude feels better than a negative one. Today you will find people from every walk of life with very different attitudes. You can find the poorest people on the earth that are truly happy, and you can find the wealthiest that are miserable, and vice versa. Not only does a good attitude determine your happiness, but science now tells us that a positive attitude improves your health and extends your life. So what can we do to improve our attitude and become healthier and happier?
Happiness is a choice. Yes, you choose to be happy! This one was the biggest one for me, “mind blown”, my son would say. I always thought you were either a happy person, or not. When I realized that outside forces of the world (job, money, parents, kids) didn’t have to effect me, I started to be happier.
Have gratitude for everything. Gratitude can be the key that changes everything. Oprah Winfrey strongly encourages everyone to have a “Gratitude Journal” to help you be more receptive to the goodness in your life. She has personally kept them for years stating it is the single most important thing she’s ever done. I don’t keep a journal, but I do spend every day in God’s word. This with a few minutes in prayer has made a huge impact. I had forgotten how much I love the Lord and he loves me, no matter what is going on in my life.
Replace your negativity. It can be hard to just stop having negative thoughts, because then you are focused more on the negative thoughts and how to stop them. An easier task is to replace them with positive thoughts. Take a self inventory on your thoughts, find what isn’t serving you well and replace them with positive thoughts. Being surrounded by negative people who are not encouraging your happiness is also not going to help. When I decided to make the change to live a more positive life, I had to rid my life of all of the negative people in it. This, as you can imagine, wasn’t easy. Getting rid of people hurts!
Look for good role models. Finding and being around people with uplifting and positive attitudes can rub off on you. This can be a friend, co-worker, neighbor or even a celebrity. Role models help show you and inspire you to be a better person and live a better more positive way.
There is the positive aspect in everything. In every person, in every situation, there is something good. Most of the time it’s not all that obvious. We have to look, and sometimes we have to look hard.
I am and always will be a work in progress, but practice makes perfect right! Try to find the positive in everything, every person and every situation. Believe in yourself. Choose to be happy, life is to short not to.